Model Iskra Lawrence Wants You to Stop Comparing Yourself to Other Women
‘I used to be that teenage girl who looked in the mirror and hated what she saw. Now, I’ve come to the point where I could just run around naked right.’
In the two years since Iskra Lawrence started modeling for Aerie sans Photoshop, the 25-year-old model has become one of the most vocal body positive advocates in the fashion game. She won’t retouch any of her Instagram photos, she slams haters who call her fat, she has no problem stripping down while discussing her insecurities, she keeps it real when it comes to her workout schedule, and she’s not afraid to remind her followers that what you see on Instagram isn’t always real.
✨ how real is our social media? Right now I can post up this pic from a few weeks ago in LA looking all happy n chill. When actually I’m going through something in my private life (and no I won’t be talking about it publicly bc it’s my “private” life) that makes me question everything, that makes me want to cry till my eyes hurt, and retreat into a hole. But then I can distract myself from what’s going on by focusing on all the blessings I have in my life all the amazing people the love and even all of you for all of your support. Basically I’m just trying to say that I never want anyone to feel like it’s wrong to feel down or sad or not body positive. Life is full of ups and downs and we have to respect our feelings and let ourselves feel that. My way to get out of it is making a gratitude list, prayer and reminding myself that I’m so so blessed to be alive, healthy, have clean water, family, a home and so many other things we often take for granted that some people don’t have. I don’t know how you’ll respond to this post but I just like being honest and as real as I can with you all✨ by @blessedpixels wearing @aerie #iskralawrence #everyBODYisbeautiful #AerieReal
Iskra is exactly the kind of role model the fashion industry needs — but while she’s OK with women looking up to her, she definitely doesn’t want them comparing themselves to her.
“I hope that when women see my ads, they feel good enough,” says the model, who was told she was too big for regular modeling gigs but too skinny for plus-size bookings. “For so many years, I didn’t feel good enough, and then I got to a place where I realized [I just needed to be] the best version of myself, respecting my body, looking after my body, not trying to change my body. I hope that reflects in how happy and confident I am, and that’s really what I wish other women take away when they see the photos that I’m in.”
That’s not to say Iskra — with her Instagram feed full of one gorgeous, unretouched photo after another — is immune to insecurity. “I used to be that teenage girl who looked in the mirror and hated what she saw and really wanted to change her body,” she admits. “Now, I’m just like, it’s not the end of the world to not have a thigh gap. It’s not the end of the world to have cellulite. When I’m insecure, I’m just like ‘hell, no, I’ve been through so much, I will not feel bad today. I’m going to shine today because I deserve to.'”
feeling vulnerable is ok, feeling sad is ok, feeling alone is ok.. but always remain grateful. No matter what you’re going through God is with you, you are alive and you are a gift to this earth. this is the first of many shots by @gavinglave so get ready for the rest to drop #iskralawrence #everyBODYisbeautiful top @fashionnova panties @aerie
Easier said than done, though, right? Not so much, says Iskra. It really just takes one major shift in perspective. “When I stopped [comparing myself to other people] and really just saw the beauty in other people as well as myself, it was a sigh of relief, to be honest. I can’t ever be them, but they can’t ever be me. That’s what makes you special. It just makes life easier, just knowing that you are good enough.”
Let’s get a round of for Iskra.